To answer the first comment from my last blog, yes, the toddler can move quite freely around in the bed. He moved just as much in the sheet as not in the sheet (ie - found him with head where is feet had started numerous times, just like before). He just can't get out.
To answer the second comment, a Ku Klux Klan costume?!?!?! I really don't see any resemblance except maybe the colour... Anyway, you're right. Parents can have their own opinions and different ideas about how to deal with situations. But if you expect me to respect the opinion of others, then my opinions should also be respected. I'm not forcing anyone to use the sheet, I'm just saying how great it worked for us, and throwing it out there as a possibility for those who are dealing with the same thing we did. I truly think that those who see it as scary or upsetting don't quite understand how it works. The toddler has pretty much the same movement as before. He is not restrained in one or two positions on the bed and was certainly never in any pain.
I certainly didn't think that my little sheet would cause so much controversy!! I still stand by it 100%.
All The Kids
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First off I am not the rude anonymous commenter!! I am the one who expressed interest in your last few posts. Honestly Allison ignore that rude commenter. I mean seriously the KKK??? Come on now!! I wouldn't blame you one bit if you switched your blog to not accept anonymous comments. Unfortunetely one rude person would wreck it for the rest of us who have sincere comments but isn't that the way it always works!? I'm glad you find humour in his/her comments!! I know you aren't the only one! Why does parenting have to be such a touchy subject? Wouldn't it be nicer if we could just all support eachother and leave the pettiness out of it?
Allison I really hope you just let this one roll right off your back! It's not worth your time and energy.
Me again! Please tell me who in their right mind would HOPE that was a KKK Halloween costume?? How disturbing.
Thank You!!!!
I am also NOT the rude anonymous commenter. LOL! I think your idea is creative, but I do have some thoughts for you to consider...
I understand you wanting to keep your child in bed. It is a hard transition for most parents of toddlers. It requires consistency and loving (but firm) discipline. I have 2 little girls myself, and the first one was a very stubborn 2 year old! However, the approach of attaching him to his crib sheet is a way to avoid the responsibility you have: to teach him to obey. He is learning nothing, when he is not physically capable of disobedience. If we simply avoid situations where we will have to teach our children to respect our rules and listen & obey us, they do not learn to choose the right thing to do. They will learn to choose what pleases them at every opportunity. Jared has not learned to obey. He has simply resigned himself to the fact that he has no opportunity (at bedtime) to test your authority.
Obviously, this is just one issue. Very likely, you teach him obedience in a million other things. Being pregnant, you may not have the energy to fight this battle. I am just saying that maybe you should give the message you are sending him more thought. What happens when he is old enough not to wear the undershirt sheet? Why not just put in the hard work now?
Give him all the nice bedtime routine (story time, pray together, hugs & kisses) and then say goodnight. Then, sit outside his door and every time his little feet hit the floor, go in the room, and only say "stay in your bed" (no conversation), put him back in bed (no more hugs and kisses - no payoff for disobeying) and leave the room. Do this as many times as it takes. He will give up. DO NOT LET HIM WIN THE BATTLE OF WILLS. Teach him to obey you.
I wish you all the best. Parenting is NOT easy, but what an awesome joy from the Lord & what a responsibility He has placed in our hands!
Blessings,
Jen
Allison, I can't believe how much controversy you've caused, LOL!
You do what works for you and your family! Hope you're all doing well. :)
(and this is why I turned comments off on my page too - I was done with people standing behind "anonymous" masks.)
Thanks Shelen! I've never really had problems with anonymous commenters, but if this continues, I may have to follow your lead!
I do understand peoples' concern if I was doing something that actually was harming my child - you obviously can't use "whatever works for your family" in every case, if actual abuse is involved, but in my case, that would NEVER be involved!!! And I totally know what you mean with that saying!!! Thanks again.
Hi Allison. I knew Ryan back in high school. Well I think this is all just silly. There is no abuse. So why does everyone feel the need to tell you how to parent. Craziness. I thought it was a good idea, and the pictures of the bear were cute. Keep up the good work.
Karen
This is Jared's Grandma speaking. I made the adaptations to the sheet and although I thought it quite amusing at first and didn't have much optimism about it's success, I figured why not give it a try. It worked for them! Ryan and Allison are great parents and will probably make a mistake or two as we all have, but I don't think this is one of them!
Absolutely. We're all just doing our best as parents, and learning all the while. I thought the sheet was a humorous (and clever!) approach to the common problem of keeping a toddler in their bed. I'm always looking for ideas when faced with toddler dilemmas. I hope this doesn't scare you off of sharing more problem-solving tactics in the future, Allison! Cuz in the end, it worked, didn't it? Well done, I say!!
All the best,
Julie
lkjHi Allison, I won't comment on the last topic because I think more then enough has been said. I will say though I don't get it when people refuse to sign their names to comments. If you have something to say then own up to it unless your life is in danger. What I do want to say Allison is that I am really appreciating the photos you are posting of Jared, yourself and Ryan. I am enjoying them.
Verna
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